How many of you can TRUTHFULLY say that you are positively 100% the real, authentic you at all times?
Yeah, I didn’t think so.
Have you ever wondered why that is? Why we are so easily shaped and molded by the people around us, be it their opinions or their life choices? I find it quite annoying, to be honest. Sometimes I wonder what kind of person I would be if I were TRULY myself, a virgin to the impacts of the people, places, and things of my everyday life. Would I be a CPA right now if it weren’t for my mother’s voice embedded in my brain, cheering me on to be an accountant who will make lots of money one day?
Would I be so into fitness and health if it weren’t for my Instagram feed full of fitness models and delicious picturesque bowls of acai and granola (which I could NEVER make on my own to that degree of perfection, by the way).
Would I be pro-Trump if I was not surrounded by friends and family who think he is crazy and hysterical and “the wrench” that needs to be thrown into our system?
Would I have paid for the coffee of the stranger in line behind me if I was not planning to post about it on social media for praise and recognition?
My answer is quite simple: I don’t know.
So how do we know if we are being true to ourselves or just living to our society’s norm?
I don’t think that we could ever delve into this truth. Not completely anyway. But here are some questions we could all start practicing asking ourselves to get closer to recognizing if we are living as our authentic self’s:
Is it right for YOU?
Big or small, ask yourself, “Why do I feel this particular way?” Is it because your mom will be proud of you? (Guilty.) But will YOU be proud of you? Dig deep and reach for your inner morals and values. Let them guide you to making decisions for no one else but you, yourself.
Are you doing it out of FOMO?
Are you one of those people who won’t stick to something unless you have a friend or group of people behind you doing it as well? Do you find yourself conforming to the circumstances you are surrounded by at that particular moment to fit in, but later find yourself disagreeing with it all? I am proud to say I have never smoked (yes, anything!) or tried illegal substances in my life. Heck, I didn’t even start drinking until I was PRETTY MUCH 21 years old. I have no FOMO and no problem telling people I won’t be going out Saturday night because I want to read a book.
Does it make YOU Happy?
As long as you are smiling and happy in your soul, you know you did it for you. Don’t be afraid to try new things even if you’re unsure of whether or not it will make you happy. You won’t truly know until you try. Maybe in trying something outside of your comfort zone you realize it’s something you genuinely enjoy. That’s what matters!
Are you doing it for the gram?
Let’s be honest; we have all cooked a certain food, baked a certain treat, went to a certain place or met up with a certain someone just for the pic we will inevitably post to IG and for that epic caption we have been planning in the secrecy of our social media addicted minds. I guess a good rule of thumb to test your inner self is to find out whether or not you would still help that elderly woman cross the street, donate to a charity, run those five miles, or hangout with Felicia from high school if you weren’t going to publicize it for likes. It may sound silly, but is it?
I think you all get the gist of it! Just do the right thing for you, follow your heart, and don’t be afraid to be the real you! Live life with passion or not at all. Don’t worry if people will hate you for your choices. The right people will love you for them no matter what they may be. There are some sad souls in this world who probably would be no one without their Instagram followers and likes. Make sure the social media version of you is the same as the IRL you!